May 05 2009

Anxiety Attacks: Survival Guide

Category: StressAislinn O'Connor @ 5:40 pm

Beating Anxiety Attacks

Anxiety attacks, or panic attacks, as they’re also known, are among the most frightening experiences that you can have.

People who’ve never experienced anxiety attacks often assume they’re just a fancy way of saying something’s scared you. Not so. Anxiety attacks are way more physical than simply feeling scared.

Typically, anxiety attacks strike without warning. You might be in a situation you perceive as dangerous when one kicks in… or you might be safe at home, watching the TV.

You may be aware of what’s provoked you to an attack of anxiety or panic – or you might not have a clue.

What you DO know is that of a sudden you feel as if you’re choking. You can’t breathe. Your chest feels tight, and maybe even painful. Your heart’s racing, and thumping so hard you feel as if everyone around can hear it.

You’re filled with the overwhelming desire to get away, to run as fast as you can away from this place or situation – but your legs won’t move. You HAVE to get away, and yet you can’t.

By this time, the anxiety attack is in full swing. You’re consumed by total panic. You may feel sick, or dizzy. You could be hot and sweating, or even cold and shivering.

Sounds can be distorted, and sometimes you can’t speak. You totally believe you’re going to die within the next 10 seconds… and as the symptoms of anxiety attacks so closely mimic those of a heart attack, that’s no surprise.

Fortunately, there’s GOOD news associated with anxiety attacks, too.

  • Despite the terrifying way they feel, anxiety attacks usually do no lasting damage. You really WILL get through them (If the chest pains don’t go away after a few seconds of trying the treatment outlined below, though, do seek help. If anxiety attacks can mimic heart attacks, that can work the other way around, as as well.);
  • Anxiety attacks are not necessarily related to a nervous breakdown or any form of mental illness – and they don’t have to be permanent. Usually, they’re simply triggered off by stress. Deal with the stress, and most anxiety attacks just disappear.

What Can Cause Anxiety Attacks?

Anxiety attacks are caused by basically anything that scares you.

That can be something current, or something in the past you haven’t yet let go.

When we get scared, the body releases vast quantities of adrenalin to give us the extra strength and power to deal with the threatening situation.

Originally that adrenalin was intended to power the fight-or-flight response which was enough to get most humans out of most threatening situations. For example, if you were in danger from a wild animal, your best response might be to stand your ground and fight – or run away as fast as possible.

If you’re more likely to be confronted by, for example, an angry boss than an outraged bear, neither hitting out nor running full-speed down the corridor might be the most appropriate response. That means that the social conventions that tell us we can’t do either of those things are in direct conflict with our built-in defense mechanism.

The result is stress.

Many times, that conflict, and the unused but still surging adrenalin that goes with it, will result in anxiety attacks.

How Can Anxiety Attacks Be Quickly Dealt With?

  • First of all, acknowledge that you have them.

You don’t need tell the world if you don’t want to, but it’s important you acknowledge to yourself what’s happening.

Anxiety attacks are nothing to be ashamed of, or embarrassed about. Like any other stress-related difficulty, accepting that you have anxiety attacks is the first step towards eliminating them. You’ll probably feel an overwhelming sensation of relief.

  • The key to controlling your thoughts and feelings, including the ones that trigger off anxiety attacks, lies in your breathing.

Anxiety attacks feed off shallow breathing. You can beat them by deep breathing.

In an anxiety attack you feel as if you can only breathe in short, sharp, even painful, bursts. In that case, just breathe OUT as far as you can. Consciously push every last molecule of air out of your lungs.

The automatic breathing reflex will immediately take over, and force you to take a long, deep breath back in.

Once that happens, just keep going, breathing as slowly and as deeply as you can.

Within a few breaths, the anxiety attack will fade and you’ll be back in control.

Don’t worry if your anxiety attacks leave you feeling very tired afterwards. You’ve just used up a tremendous amount of mental and emotional energy. That’s why anxiety attacks can leave you feeling drained.

If you have ready access to a rest room, go and soak your hands, and especially your wrists, in cool (not icy cold) water. You might also like to splash some on your face.

DON’T immediately drink a cup of coffee – it’s a good idea to give your body time to re-absorb the excess adrenalin before you take in extra caffeine.

It’s also a good idea to get some extra sleep so you can recharge your energy.

To Prevent Anxiety Attacks Recurring…

You need to get rid of whatever stress is causing them, because until you do the anxiety attacks will just keep coming back.

A good way to start is by checking out the page entitled Free Your Life From Stress.

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May 01 2009

Life Success – Success Skills Of A Different Kind?

Category: SuccessAislinn O'Connor @ 8:19 pm

Success skills don’t always bring you life success.

That might seem like a contradiction in terms. After all, to achieve success in life you have to have success skills, don’t you? And isn’t life success what happens when you use them?

Not quite – at least, not always. You see, there’s one big difference between life success and the success skills you need to achieve success in projects.

If you have success skills, you already know that to complete successful projects you need to specify exactly what you want the outcome to be – the launch of a new business, completing your first novel, moving house without a hitch, getting that promotion, etc.

These are outcomes you can easily define.

Life success can be another matter. What DOES it really take for you to feel your life is totally fulfilled – that it’s successful?

The problem is, the definition keeps on changing and developing.

At one point in your life, success might just mean getting an A-Grade for that science exam that you’ve been dreading. Two years later, it might be to get a hot date before your best friend does… and then a partner… home and children.

Next, your success skills might be dedicated to your LATEST definition of your life success – a foot on the promotion ladder towards someday being CEO of the company you work in.

By the time you ARE the CEO, your idea of life success may have shifted towards your family and ambitions for your children. You might be looking to help and encourage them in their careers – or it may be your idea of life success simply to make sure that you pass on to your children the ideals you were brought up with, or have learned along the way.

See the problem? Success skills are like a roadmap – they’ll take you anywhere you want to go… but ONLY if you’re clear about the destination.

Fortunately, like a roadmap, they’ll accommodate whatever changes in direction you might want to make – but only if you’re clear on what they are.

That’s why it’s vital that every so often you take a step back and review your progress in your life success, just as you’d evaluate your progress towards any other project.

Once a year is generally enough, and you can pick any time you find convenient.

Some people find the ending of the year is a good time to look back at the progress that you’ve made so far, and evaluate what desired outcomes you should focus your success skills on next (that’s where the idea behind New Year’s Resolutions comes from).

Others prefer vacation time, when they can take a break from work, relax and let their mind explore ideas.

Still others make it a rule to do it just before their birthday, so that they can start their own personal new year off on the right foot.

If you’re a teacher or a student, the ideal time might be the start of the new school year.

It doesn’t matter when you do it, as long as it’s a time that means something to you, and when you conveniently can, and actually will, take some time to think about what life success might mean to you – right now.

Look at what your definition of life success was at the same time last year. Have you achieved the objectives you set then, or at least made as much progress as you’d thought you would by now?

If not, what corrections do you need or want to make? Do you need to update your success skills in any way?

Either way, does that definition of life success still fit in with the way you feel, your aims and aspirations, right now?

If so, great.  If not, no problem.

Just ask yourself what life success now represents to you.

THAT is your new aim… and as long as you’re clear on what it is, you can use your success skills to take you there.

Don’t worry about how many times you change your definition of what life success is. It’s bound to evolve and to develop exactly as YOU do.

After all, everyone’s underlying definition of success in life is doing or achieving all the things that make them happiest. For some, those things are always constant – but for many more, they’re not.

Whatever those things are for you, they’re what your life success depends on… and where your success skills need to be most focused.

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